Certified Green Flag

The verdict

You are the person therapists describe when they say "find someone who…". You reply to messages, you celebrate other people’s wins, you say "my bad" without a ten-minute preamble and you can be told no without staging a one-act play about it.

People feel safe around you, which is the rarest compliment in modern dating. You are not perfect, you are just consistent, and consistency is so uncommon it looks like magic.

Your green flags

• Communicates clearly, even when it is awkward
• Happy for friends when they win
• Respects privacy and personal space
• Apologizes like an adult, then actually changes

Your sneaky flaw

• So agreeable that people forget to ask what you want
• Will help someone move house when you should be resting
• Occasionally mistaken for "boring" by people who enjoy chaos

In love and friendship

In love you are the safe harbor: steady, warm and honest. Your challenge is choosing people who match your effort instead of projects who need fixing. In friendship you are the reliable one, so make sure the support flows both ways.

Who you meet on the flag spectrum

Flag tags

• texts back
• emotionally fluent
• birthday rememberer
• healthy boundaries
• shares the fries